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| Joined: | Tue Jun 29th, 2010 |
| Location: | Virginia USA |
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Do you ever feel out of control with the buying and collecting? Do you spend WAY more for watches in a year than rent? Has your collecting ever come between you and your family? Do you have a whole room in your house devoted to your collection? Have you ever bought at an inappropriate time...during a significant life event, birth, death of a family member? How about reading and posting instead of sleeping? Have you ever promised you would stop, but kept buying anyway? Do you fight about the money with your spouse? Do you hang out on these forums while your child's first days are passing by? Do you hide your purchases? Would you ever give up every watch you owed to repair the trust with your family? These are just things a watch widow wants to know.
Destructive behavior like the kind you've described sounds more like someone with underlying addiction issues that just happen to manifest itself in collecting watches. The hiding of purchases is a good sign that they know they shouldn't do something, especially if they promised to give it up, and may reflect this inability to stop.
To be fair, some of the things do seem coincidental (the timing of an ebay auction ending v. family event), or simply the part of the hobby (posting with friends on forums at night). Many people on here will confess to making impulsive buys (damn WatchRecon), but I'd like to think that most purchases would not lead to financial difficulties or that agreed budgets would be ~mostly~ followed.
Not my place, but it may call for professional help, as your attempts to force a stop to the behavior or the sell off of watches will allow your SO to direct frustration/resentment at you without addressing the underlying cause.
Good luck.