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 Posted: Thu Dec 24th, 2009 11:46 am
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KenC



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 I don't think that there is any Christmas that is not bittersweet for adults.  I spent Christmas 1968 in the hospital after getting blown up by a hand grenade which killed a friend of mine.  I spent too many Christmases away from home in the field or patrolling the Czech border.  I have one daughter from whom I have been estranged for several years.  My PTSD is killing me and my osteoarthritis is crippling me, and I lost two of my dogs since AUG with old age and strokes...and financially, things suck...not to mention the unexpected passing of Carole (TNY).

On the plus side, I have been blessed with a wonderful supportive wife who understands what is happening.  I have twin 10-year old boys which is a miracle in itself at my age, they are bright and happy "A" students and great athletes who love me unconditionally even though sometimes my pain keeps me from doing things with them.  They have rescued 2 young dogs and are getting over their loss.  I have my Army buddies and my friends from 3T.

The bittersweet Christmases for children are those that spend them without their Dad or Mom, many of them because of deployment.  The bittersweet Christmas for kids is those of the lower ranking enlisted men, especially those that are deployed who get very little if anything because of finances.

Joe, I would only tell you that your son probably does have PTSD whether he realizes it or not.  Encourage him to go to the VA and get tested.  Encourage him to attend classes and groups at the VA or, preferably, the VET Center (which is VA funded, but totally separate and different).  We have a saying, "It takes the strength of a warrior to seek help".  Obviously, your son Bryan, is a warrior, but he will still need a very supportive and understanding family.  Medical research has proven that combat causes actual chemical changes to your brain, and the major result (PTSD) are wanting to be alone, depression, anger and procrastination.  Feel free to PM me if you have any questions.