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| Feelin' Alright | Rate Topic |
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 05:28 am |
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Simon_Leung 3T WIS 
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I've been diagnosed with manic depression recently and my personal friends have either distanced themselves or completely rejected me because of my illness. What it comes down to: If they can't accept who I am then I have nothing do with them. Phone calls are non-existence, just loneliness is all there is. Yes, at times there is a sense of hopelessness but I'm too determined to live. Death is not an answer, never was and never will be. It hasn't crossed my mind because my parents are counting on me, for support. I am seeking help,but few people understand what kind of torment I'm dealing with. I've kept it as a secret. Due to the fact I didn't want people to feel sorry for me. As a matter of fact, I'm not asking for sympathy nor as a cry for help. Participating and taking part in this forum, has in many ways a sort of therapy to ease my mind. I am not ashamed to admit that have a mental illness,it hasn't affected me from continuing with my job or staying focused. One thing is certain and that is: LIFE GOES ON. Is the philosophy that best describes my outlook. Staying positive is a daunting task. Keeping a cool head and remaining positive is the best defense against any sudden depressive episodes. Anyone with depression knows what I'm going through. The symptoms is like a roller coaster ride,one minute you're laughing and being pleasant. The next minute you're a miserable person. I do not condone swearing, but I refuse to use it. Perhaps is a sign of maturity, whatever it is this is how I conduct myself in private and in public. I have nothing to apologize for. On the other hand,I felt comfortable enough to express openly as what is happening. If I shocked some of you,then yes I do sincerely apologize. Life's too short to let every obstacle get in the way. Sincerely, Simon
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 07:43 am |
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Paxman 3T WIS 
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Simon thank you for sharing with us. Your attitude is right on the money and will be a great help as you face the obstacle(s) life throws in your way. How we react to adversity is completely dependant on our character. It is clear to me you will face this, and any challenge head on. You have defined yourself as a person of character. Hang in there and do what is best for you.
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 09:34 am |
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bigrustypig 3T WIS 
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Hang in there, Simon. This will all passhand6.gif
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 10:11 am |
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Skipdawg 3T WIS 
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It is sad Simon but it is times like these when you learn who your real friends are. Those who walk away were not real friends to begin with. I can relate in a very big way. Don't worry about it. Just move on. Rediscover yourself. I speak from experience. Life is not over it will just be different.
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 12:10 pm |
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Simon_Leung 3T WIS
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I'm not worry about this situation, I am glad that I was able to discuss my obstacle without being ridiculed. The way I see it, this is who I am. If people can't accept this fact,then really they shouldn't of been my friends to begin with in the first place. I was able to free myself from having my feelings bottled up and by the comments that I've read so far,are very encouraging. Life is full of obstacles and challenges it is how we face them head on that makes the difference. We experience things differently from individual to individual. I am doing a lot better,being in part that I was able to share. One thing I learned is that this situation has probably made me a better person. Thank you Mark, Jeff and John for the kind and sincere comments. Cheers, Simon
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 12:43 pm |
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Jeep99dad 3T WIS 
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Simon You are on the right track.. I can also relate to how you feel even though it may be fro different root causes. Either way, Life does GO ON and death is never an option. Taking one's life is not our decision, only He decides when is our time. The key is to know that you are NOT alone and you will maintain/build true friendships that will make you stronger and help yuo through tough times. Wre are not meant to go through "things" alone... one, HE is with us, he takes on our worries and I DO believe things happen for a reason. Two we are meant to form relationships with others ("love thy neighbor"), and go through things together. If I were you, I would visit a local church with groups setup top help folks go through challenges whatever they may be. Often times, you will find the help you are looking for and make durable friendship in the process. YOU'll probably encounter many who went or are giong thru the same thing... We all go through these tough times at some point and we need eachother! Stay strong, positive, and see obstacles a challenges to get to what is meant to be your destination and to help you find out who you are, what you are made of. I am not saying it is easy, and though I am sorry you are going through difficult times, I do not feelsorry for you if it makes sense. I wish you the best and thank you for having the Cojones :) to share, it is not easy but you did it so I am confident you WILL BE FINE!!! God Bless my friend! Brice
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 03:25 pm |
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Paladin 3T WIS 
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Simon, I'm sorta familiar with this mental illness. A very close family member struggled with the "roller coaster" for years and although they have beat it for the most part, going through the issues with them was hard enough. I agree with your attitude; Chuck Swindoll once wrote... “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” I also agree with Brice about a support network. A Church based support group may be very helpful. But, please do not be afraid to seek medical help to deal with the symptoms while you sort out the root causes. Most of all find someone you can talk to and do just that. Do not be afraid of "whining, complaining and being a nuisance" I have met many people who have talked themselves out any positive progress because they were unable to be "real" about there situation. Remember "fine" is a setting on a washing machine.:D As you deal with your hurdles, I'll leave with these words from Chuck Swindoll again... “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.” God Bless, Bill Last edited on Thu Sep 17th, 2009 03:34 pm by Paladin |
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| Posted: Fri Sep 18th, 2009 01:38 am |
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Simon_Leung 3T WIS
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Thank you Brice and Bill for the advice and the encouragement. I do have support from my church and that we get together about once a week for lunch. One thing I have,that very few people can comprehend is my positive attitude. By reflecting on my strong points and remain focus has paid dividends. I take full control of my situation rather than to let the situation take control of me,has what made the difference. I was able to seek help at the first sign of trouble. The way I see it,other people's judgment of who I am isn't as important as how I judge myself. I confronted this thing head on and came out a better person. Cheers, Simon
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| Posted: Sat Sep 19th, 2009 10:00 pm |
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chas1133 3T WIS 
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Good for you Simon...sounds like you're doing everything you can in order to help yourself, including facing this and anything else head on! Seems like when you confront the bad things and refuse retreat, the strength you show wins out...hang in there and stay with all your support systems you have in place...give of yourself when you can, it helps. Oh yes...and buy more watches! Charlie
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| Posted: Sun Sep 20th, 2009 12:20 am |
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Simon_Leung 3T WIS
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Thank you Charliehand6.gif Cheers, Simon
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| Posted: Sun Sep 20th, 2009 12:16 pm |
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canadajo 3T WIS 
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Simon , Just hang in there .... I actually do know something about your situation ... I got an education on manic depression and depression .... Bipolar disorder also is in this category .... Its all genetic, and situations trigger worse times or better times .... I learned that science knows LITTLE about mental health ! I read books and articles , scaned the web for answers, talked to doctors etc. etc. .... our USA health ins will not help much .... A certain ins co. I had 10 years ago would pay for abortions but had a 5 K limit on any mental illness coverage ! My wife finally received help when a smart doc sent her blood to the Mayo clinic for genetic testing ... apparently it costs MUCHO dollars for the tests ?!? BUT it helped tremendously ! It showed she had a "quirk" in one gene and that her serotonin level is low from lack of a lithium count .... Now she has the proper meds to level her .... So little is done about research for mental health but it will become epidemic ..... society today with high stress is breaking people by the millions ! I hope you can find a doc that will give you the correct levels of what you need .... a lack of just one chemical for you would trigger sorrow when you shouldnt have to be sad .... Its all because one minute chemical is not motabolising properly for you .... You are one good doc away from what will help
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| Posted: Sun Sep 20th, 2009 02:47 pm |
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nicolasbdive 3T WIS 
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Simon, your strength of character and kind spirit comes thru in the way you treat others here. Wishing you the very best in all things.
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